Aaaah man, I remember that time when we eagerly tried to sleep train Asante. I think she was 6 months old. We were exhausted and desperately needed our space back. We knew we had to take control of the situation. We did a little bit of research, bought some books and it was time to implement. Needless to say, after a couple of attempts we failed dismally and 4 years later we are still paying for our sins.
I cannot believe that waking up with my daughter’s dainty foot in my face has remained the norm for the past 4 years of my life? Shocking I know. So about 5 weeks ago we unanimously decided to give it one last try. And in the last 3 weeks she has spent every single night in her bed. I cannot believe we finally got it right! In today’s post I would like to share how we got my 4 year old out of our bed.
Decide on a strategy and stick to it
When we tried sleep training a few years back, it was a nightmare. I don’t know how it’s possible to ignore your baby whilst they hysterically cry their eyes out. But I guess if we had stuck it out we would have managed to reclaim our room years ago. This time around we decided to go back to the basics by using a simple star chart. The deal is she gets a star every time she spends the night in her bed and gets receives a gift once she has five stars. I know times are tough right now so the gift shouldn’t be anything extravagant. And just like that, we’ve officially reclaimed our bedroom.
If you’ve been co-sleeping with your child for a few years, be patient. Remember, this is a huge transition for them. If Asante wakes up in the middle of the night, we simply allow her back in our bed. We don’t make a big deal about it the following morning, it’s business as usual. But if she spends the whole night in her bed, we have a mini celebration as soon as she wakes up. We make a big deal about it and she spends the morning beaming with pride.
Consistency is critical if you want to see results. If you promise to give your child a star or a gift, then make sure you follow through. They need to trust that you will stick to your end of the bargain.
Getting my daughter to sleep in her bed on her own is definitely one of the most celebrated milestones in our house. It’s not going to be easy, but if you decide on your strategy and remain consistent you should be well on your way to reclaiming your space. How did you manage to get your little one out of your bed? Comment below.