Boundaries are essential for healthy relationships and a happy life. Setting boundaries and preserving boundaries is a skill that most of us, unfortunately, learn later in life or don’t learn at all.
Having boundaries is all about knowing your limits and sticking to them. It takes courage and practice, but it does get easier over time. Here are some tips on how to set boundaries for yourself.
Get comfortable with saying no
Saying no doesn’t come naturally for most of us. We might fear the other person’s response or feel guilty for saying no to someone close to us. But, by saying yes, even though you feel drained or taken advantage of, you’re doing yourself a gross disservice. No is a complete sentence. You don’t have to explain yourself if you don’t want to. Setting boundaries is not just about developing healthy relationships — it’s also about self-respect. If you can’t respect yourself, then you can’t expect other people to respect you.
Use technology wisely
I love technology — my business revolves around technology. I use my phone and laptop to communicate with loved ones all over the world. I use my phone to capture beautiful memories. However, technology has the ability to suck the life out of us.
Here’s the thing, you don’t have to respond to a text message immediately if you’re not ready to, and you shouldn’t allow anyone to make you feel guilty for that. You don’t have to take every single phone call. It’s your phone you make the rules. If you decide that you don’t take phone calls after a specific time, that’s okay.
Mute or disable app notifications, that way you will limit unnecessary distractions. You need to make technology work for you and not the other way around.
Make self-care a priority
Give yourself permission to put yourself first. Remember, when we’re in a better space, then we’re automatically better moms, friends and partners.
Protect your time and space
You are allowed to set boundaries for your stuff, time, energy, and physical and emotional space. If weekends are reserved for family time, then you must make that clear to your friends. Don’t overcommit yourself — know your limits.
Like any new skill, setting boundaries takes time and practice. Be patient with yourself and start small and then implement more challenging boundaries over time. Can you think of any other ways to set boundaries? Let me know in the comments below.
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