Once you become a mom, you may as well kiss your dreams goodbye. We’ve all heard that one right? If that’s the case, I would like to know how have Basetsana Khumalo, Michelle Obama or Beyoncé managed to achieve so much whilst raising their children?
If anything motherhood has pushed me to work harder than ever before. I’m more focused, my children are the primary source of my inspiration. Today I would like to share with you how to accomplish goals and still be a great mom (sometimes great).
Nonjabulo, my full-time helper at home, and my hubby make up my immediate support structure. Nonjabulo ensures that the house is clean and she efficiently handles all the laundry duties. I’m at home most of the time which means she doesn’t really need to take care of the kids. My husband on the other hand plays a completely different role, of course. He knows and fully understands all my goals. He’s my sounding board, accountability partner and my lifelong number one supporter. I think it’s so important for your spouse or partner to have a full picture of where you’re trying to go so they can willingly join you on your remarkable journey. And if you don’t have a partner or spouse make sure there’s someone in your life that supports you enough to hold you accountable.
You have to get uncomfortable if you genuinely want to achieve your goals. Being a mom does take up a lot of your time, so you’ll need to be selfish about how you spend it. Which means you might have to take a raincheck for lunch dates with your girlfriends or other social events. You’ll have to work harder than ever before. I’ve written about this several times, but it’s been such a game changer for me and I love sharing it whenever I get the opportunity to. I’ve started waking up at 4:45 to instantly give myself a head start. I still continue with my normal morning routine but I also use that time to write. So by the time the kids wake up, I’m done with my standard morning routine and have written an entire blog post. That way no matter how the day turns out, I always feel as if I’ve accomplished something. And yes, you’re probably thinking you’re not a morning person but try it out for one week and see how you feel.
Set goals and most importantly have a clear plan of how you will achieve those goals. Make sure you write down those goals where you can see them at least once a week. I once read that you should write down your goals every single day. That’s too much admin, right? Instead, I just write mine down as often as I can, that way they stay top of mind.
Yes, you must work hard but too much of anything is never any good. You need to make time for yourself as well as your loved ones. I don’t open my laptop in the evening, that’s family time. The ingenious trick here is to work smart, which means you need to be productive during your working hours so you don’t have to work in the evenings. I know we all have different workloads so alternatively, you could wake up earlier to catch up your work or work once the family is asleep if you’re a night owl.
Balancing your career and motherhood is not an easy task. But if you’re willing to make sacrifices, set boundaries and have clear goals, you should be well on your way to accomplishing your goals and being a great mom. How are you managing to achieve your goals?
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