I remember sitting in my office cubicle a few years ago. I hated my job and my love life was in shambles at the time. I felt stuck and I had absolutely no idea what I wanted out of life, but I undoubtedly knew that I was on the wrong path. Caroline Myss says, “You know you’re on the right path when you’re not put in a position to betray yourself.” And I was betraying myself over and over again. I knew that I wasn’t living up to my fullest potential and that was killing me.

I’ve always known that was I destined to do great things with my life,  but I had absolutely no idea what that was exactly. I’m not quite there yet, but I now know what I want to achieve and how I’ll get there. But I think it’s important for me to highlight that I needed to have a major mindset shift to get to where I am today.

In this blog post,  I would like to share with you how I took control of my life.

My life, My Terms

Living my life in my own terms means having the flexibility and freedom to do what matters most to me. I’ve stopped trying to do things to impress others because I’m the only person that gets to live my life. I quit my corporate job five years ago, but it took me three years to finally start doing something that makes my heart burn with passion. Now, I’m not implying that you need to quit your job in order to live life in your own terms, but I’ve always known that the corporate world wasn’t designed for me. It was important for me to find my true life purpose and that wasn’t going to happen in an office cubicle.

Have Clear Goals

I’ve always had ambitious goals, but I’ve hardly ever followed through because I didn’t have a clear plan of how I would get there. I would only focus on the outcome and conveniently forget about the steps needed to achieve the outcome. If you don’t have a plan, then you’re just fooling yourself.

Be Accountable

Once I started taking ownership of my shit I started seeing drastic changes in my life. I now know the only person that is responsible for the state of my life is me. Not my parents or failed relationships, but me. When you own your experiences, you start to take responsibility instead of making excuses. That way you learn from those experiences and move on.

Positive mindset

This is a big one, our thoughts typically create our experiences. We live in our heads, and it’s so important to intentionally keep those thoughts positive. No matter how tough things get.

Take Risks and Dream Big

You need to take risks if you want to see big results. I know that’s a cliché, but it’s so true. You have to just put yourself out there. If you have a dream, make it happen and it’s okay if you fail. You learn from your experiences and try again. I now know that I can achieve anything that I set my mind to. Not because I’m smarter or better than anyone else, but once I dedicate myself to something I go all in. Don’t be afraid to dream big, nothing is impossible.

Level Up

I’m constantly trying to get better in every essential aspect of my life. Whether it’s my spirituality, business or my relationships. I’m always on a mission to level up, by reading books and listening to podcasts.

It is clear that I’ve had to make some major changes in my life. It has taken me many years of  ups and downs, but in the end I am finally living a life I can be proud of. How have you taken control of your life?

Love B


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