Motherhood sure has a way of teaching you lessons fast. Just when you think you’ve got this, the game changes!
It’s been an honour to teach, guide and navigate this life thing with my children. After 15 years of being on this adventurous motherhood journey, here are 8 valuable lessons learned from motherhood.
Our children our most prominent teachers
I honestly believed that I was supposed to be the teacher in this parent-child relationship—only to find that it’s the other way around. When I look at how I’ve grown over the past couple of years, I know that I have to give most of the credit to my children. To be a better parent, you need to go on a journey of self-discovery and self-development.
Every phase eventually ends
Nothing lasts forever. From the newborn stage, which goes hand in hand with sleepless nights and round the clock feeding. Or the terrible two’s phase with its tantrums. Eventually, it all comes to an end, and before you know it, it’s time to move on to the next stage. So as much as the sleepless nights can be extremely taxing, enjoy that time with your new bundle of joy as much as you can. Try to enjoy every single phase that comes after that.
Your parenting style will evolve
As you get wiser and more mature, you start to get the hang of this parenting thing. My parenting style has evolved organically over the years. I still don’t have it all figured out, but I’m committed to continuous growth to benefit my children and myself.
Discuss parenting styles with your partner
My husband and I rarely discussed our parenting styles before we got married. I guess we thought we’d wing it, and boy oh boy did we learn the hard way. Fortunately for us, we’ve finally found common ground. If you’re planning on having kids in the future, make sure you and your partner are on the same page regarding the way you want to approach parenting.
Mom guilt is a beast
Here’s the thing, I’ve been a mom for 15 years, but I still suffer from a severe case of mom guilt. So yep, it doesn’t go away, but I’ve learned to manage it a little better.
Don’t sweat the small stuff
You eventually learn that sometimes you need to choose your battles carefully to focus on the more important aspects of parenting. There will be those rare occasions when you have to look away and let your kids make their own choices even if you disagree with them.
Manage your expectations
As parents, we should refrain from projecting our wants and needs onto our children. Our children are not always going to do what we want them to do. But when they become an extension of ourselves and use them to rewrite our own lives, that can be problematic.
We need to let go of our need to mold our kids into what we want them to be. Our role is to help our kids to become their authentic selves and thrive!
Make self-care a priority
Give yourself permission to put yourself first. And remember, when we’re in a better space, then we’re automatically better moms, friends and partners.
Motherhood is a continuous learning journey. Those are the few valuable lessons I’ve learned in the past couple of years. These are my personal experiences, and I hope they will serve as words of encouragement to you. What has motherhood taught you? Let me know in the comments below.