Motherhood. Where do I even start? It is a journey that is filled with so much joy but yet challenging at times. When you throw a spanner in the works, things get even more complicated.
It’s no secret that as a working mom, you can often be pressed for time, stressed and feel like you’re being pulled in different directions. Here are 7 things all working moms should know.
Forget about balance
I would recommend that you stop chasing your tail by trying to find balance. It simply doesn’t exist. We all have good and bad days, and we need to learn to accept things for what they are. On some days you knock this motherhood thing out the park and other days you may forget about dress-up day at your child’s school. Forgive yourself and move on.
Excellent communication is the foundation of any relationship. Make sure that everyone knows what’s going on at any given time. We use Google calendar to keep everyone informed at home. Whether it’s dentist appointments or teacher-parent meetings, everything goes on the calendar. If you’re more a traditional gal, consider putting up a physical calendar at a central spot in your home.
Ask for help
The minute you try to become super mom, that’s when the wheels start falling off. Trust me, I’ve been there several times! Don’t be afraid to ask for help from your partner or anyone that makes up your support structure.
Respect family time
I’ve spoken about the significance of having family traditions to help you stay connected as a family. Once you’ve decided on your family traditions, do your best to honour that time. If dinner time is at 7 pm or game nights are on Friday, prioritise your family by being home on time as often as you can.
I love to work. If it were up to me, I would even work throughout the weekend. I used to do that until I realised that I was eating into my family time and I wasn’t allowing myself to reset. During the week, I shut down at 5 pm, I don’t open my laptop until the following morning. I don’t work on weekends. If I have a tight deadline, then I wake up early so that I’m done working by the time my tribe is awake.
Learn to deal with your guilt
Okay, mom guilt is a beast. I once heard Dr Shefali say that guilt is just another way that we give ourselves the excuse to continue doing the wrong thing. The mom guilt demon is not a simple one. However, that statement helped me shift my mindset. So what she meant is that if you’re feeling guilty about not spending enough time with your family, for example, then make the time. Don’t waste your time and energy feeling guilty about something that you can control. We all have the time but we choose to prioritise other things over what we know is important.
Enjoy your work
Your kids absorb everything that you say like a sponge. Trust me, they’re always listening. If you’re always complaining about your work, then you’re not setting a very good example. Your kids need to know that work is enjoyable and if you don’t like your job, try to find something positive to say. We want to encourage our kids to be hard-working individuals one day.
Being a working mom comes with plenty of challenges but we need to find strategies or hacks that will make life a little easier for us mamas. What else do you think we need to know as working mamas? Let me know in the comments below.
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