The one thing I love about motherhood is that it has pushed me to be a better person. I know that my kids are continuously watching me, so it became vital for me to make drastic changes.

Trying to improve your life can seem overwhelming, but change happens incrementally, so our improvements should tackle small bits at a time. These are the 6 things that I’ve given up for a better life.

No Negative Self Talk

Positive thinking is an incredibly powerful tool. The quality of your thoughts determines the quality of your life. Be careful of how you speak to yourself. If you make a mistake, don’t beat yourself up about it, give yourself some grace. The negative thoughts still manage to sneak their way in, but I’ve learnt to recognise them and replace them with positivity ones.

Being a quitter

I’m a reformed quitter. If I look back in my life, I realise I just never followed through with anything. Whenever the going got tough, I would just quit, whether it was varsity, relationships or business ventures. Heck, I’ve even quit business ventures in my head before the implementation phase. Now, I don’t start anything unless I know I will follow through and willingly give it my undivided attention. Whatever I start, I will finish.

Making excuses

We come up with excuses when we don’t want to take ownership of our stuff. The more excuses we make, the further we move away from a life that we can be proud of. I don’t have enough time, I’m not ready, or I’m afraid to fail. All of those excuses were part of my vocab, up until I decided to take ownership of my stuff.


I stopped complaining when I discovered it only fueled negativity. Honestly, nobody wants to spend time with people who love to complain. If you’re unhappy about something, then find a viable solution and keep it moving. 

Saying no to relationships that no longer serve me

AAAAGH, this is a tough one. I’m one of those people who would willingly stay in toxic relationships until it was too late. Call me the “fixer,” I’ve always thought that I could change people. More importantly, I didn’t believe I was worthy of healthy relationships. I can’t think of anything that’s more taxing than entertaining toxic relationships so, I try, by all means, to let go.

Holding grudges

By holding grudges, you unintentionally prevent goodness from coming into your life. Forgiveness will free your soul. I know that it’s not always easy, but you have to at least do it for yourself. Remember that everyone does the best they can from their own level consciousness.

You need to make some tough decisions if you want to a better life. It all starts with the commitment to make a change, and you will be well on your way to living a life that you’ve always desired. These are the 6 things I’ve given up for a better life. What are some of the things that you need to give up? Let me know in the comments below.

Love B


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