Motherhood sure has a way of teaching you lessons fast. Just when you think you’ve got this, the game changes!
My son has just entered his teen years and I’m looking forward to helping him navigate this interesting phase in his life. But I’ve also been reflecting on my motherhood journey. Today, I thought it would be great to share with you 5 valuable lessons I’ve learnt from motherhood.
Be in the moment
Nothing lasts forever. From the new born stage which goes hand in hand with sleepless nights, gigantic breasts filled with milk and spending hours staring into the cutest little face. Or the terrible two’s with it’s healthy dose of trantrums. But eventually it all comes to an end and before you know it, it’s time to move on to the next phase. So as much as the sleepless nights can be extremely taxing, enjoy that time with your new bundle of joy as much as you can. Just be in the moment and take it all in.
Your parenting style will evolve
As you get wiser and more mature you start to get a hang of this parenting thing. My parenting style has evolved organically over the years. My approach to discipline for example has done a complete 360 in the past 13 years. I used to believe in spanking, but I’m now completely against it.
Discuss parenting styles with your partner
My husband and I rarely discussed our parenting styles before we got married. I guess we thought we’d just wing it and boy oh boy did we learn the hard way. Fortunately for us, we’ve eventually found common ground. If you’re a planning on having kids in future make sure you and your partner are on the same page when it comes to the way you want to approach parenting.
Mom guilt is a beast
Here’s the thing, I’ve been a mom for 13 years but I still suffer from a severe case of mom guilt. So yep, it doesn’t go away but I’ve learnt to manage it a little better. I feel guilty when I’m working, or if my daughter cries when my hubby and I go out for date night. It undoubtedly gets me every time. I sincerely hope you manage it a little better than I do.
Don’t sweat the small stuff
You eventually learn that sometimes you need to carefully choose your battles. There will be those rare occasions when you just have to look away and let your kids make their own choices. Even if you don’t agree with them. In my case for example, I allow my 4-year-old to dress herself and sometimes she gets it completely wrong. But I let her have her way, so I can focus on the more significant things.
Motherhood is a continuous learning journey. Those are the few valuable lessons I’ve learnt in the past couple of years. They are my personal experiences and I hope they will serve as words of encouragement for you. What has motherhood taught you? Let me know in the comments below.
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