Motherhood is stressful, and sometimes it’s easy to give in to the stress. We all have the desire to create a peaceful home, but at times, it seems like a distant dream.
The responsibility of peace in our homes is dependent on us because we set the tone in our homes. We can’t create peaceful homes if we’re not at peace ourselves. So, how do you remain calm even when you feel anything but calmness? Here are 5 habits of a calm mom.
Don’t take things personally
One of our major triggers as moms is that we take things personally. We often feel personally offended by children’s misbehaviour or conduct. Children test boundaries, and most of the time, we have absolutely no control over that. However, we do have control over how we react.
Choose your battles
Over the years, I’ve learnt how to choose my battles. Somethings are just not worth fussing over, but we need to find a good balance — we can’t let everything slide.
Take some time out
Mommies also need some time out. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with removing yourself from a situation so that you can get a minute to calm down and gather your thoughts. If you cannot physically remove yourself from a situation, take a minute to breathe. It should calm the kids as well because it gives them time to think about what’s happened. Remember, what might work might work for one person might not work for the next person.
Plan your response
By now, you should know how your kids push boundaries as well as your triggers. Have certain consequences in place for various unfavourable behaviours. If you know how you’ll respond when your kids don’t make their beds or do their homework, then you shouldn’t have to decide on a course of action in the heat of the moment.
It’s the small decisions that we make every day that determine whether we end up feeling stressed or burnt out. Schedule time in your day to do something that brings joy. It doesn’t have to be anything extravagant — a short walk or a quick yoga session should do the trick. We give so much of ourselves — we must make time to fill up our tanks.
Although there are many, those are the 5 habits of a calm mom. We all have the ability to remain calm even if you’re a passionate and emotive mom. What are some of your tips for remaining calm? Let me know in the comments below.
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