As moms, many of us have packed schedules. Between work and taking care of our families, life can be a little overwhelming on some days.
You love your family—of course you do. But when the tired feeling sits heavy on your bones, that’s when you feel close to burnout. However, there are ways to fight it. By being intentional, you may find ways not just to survive but thrive! Here are 15 important habits to avoid mom burnout.
Get comfortable with saying no
Saying no doesn’t come naturally for most of us. We might fear the other person’s response or feel guilty for saying no to someone close to us. But, by saying yes even though you feel drained or taken advantage of, you’re doing yourself a gross disservice. No is a complete sentence. You don’t have to explain yourself if you don’t want to. Setting boundaries is not just about developing healthy relationships— it’s also about self-respect. And if you can’t respect yourself, then you can’t expect other people to respect you.
Protect your time and space
You are allowed to set boundaries for your stuff, time, energy, and physical and emotional space. If weekends are reserved for family time, then you must make that clear to your friends. Don’t overcommit yourself— know your limits.
Ask for help when you need it. You don’t have to do this alone. Hire someone to help you around the house if you’re able to do so. Alternatively, reach out to your partner or family members. Extra hands can go a long way.
Although we choose to blog or document our lives on social media, very few of us journal and write our experiences. Journaling has proven to relieve stress by allowing us to self-reflect. Writing down your feelings in a journal gives you a chance to process your emotions instead of just suppressing them. It’s also an excellent way to keep your thoughts organised and improve your writing.
I love technology—my business is centered around technology. I use my phone and laptop to communicate with loved ones all over the world. I use my phone to capture beautiful memories. However, technology has the ability to suck the life out of us.
Here’s the thing, you don’t have to respond to a text message immediately if you’re not ready to, and you shouldn’t allow anyone to make you feel guilty for that. You don’t have to take every single phone call. It’s your phone, you get to make the rules. If you decide that you don’t take phone calls after a specific time, that’s okay.
Choose friends and acquittances wisely
Pay attention to the kind of people that you surround yourself with. What type of energy do they bring to the table? Are they continually complaining, putting other people down or gossiping? I choose to spend my time with people that are positive and inspirational. On the flip side, you should evaluate the kind of energy you bring to the table and be the kind of person you want to be around.
Rest on weekends
Weekends are for resting. I know that it’s tempting to spend that time catching up on your work. However, we all need to reset to start the new week with joy and positivity. Whether you choose to sleep in, take afternoon naps or long walks, there’s no right or wrong as long as you find the activity relaxing and enjoyable.
To do list
I don’t know about you. I only look forward to the new week if I feel fully prepared. Please take a few minutes to plan your week, whether you have to attend a parent-teacher meeting at your kid’s school or you have to submit a work document, write it all down, or put it in your calendar.
There’s nothing worse than getting home after a long day at work, and then you still have to figure out what to make for dinner. Or even worse, you get home and realise that you don’t have all the ingredients needed. You can either use the weekend to prepare your meals for the week or simply write down all the meals you will need to cook during the week. Either way, plan ahead so you can save time and reduce stress.
One of the things that consume time during the week is grocery shopping, which can be done during the weekend. Put together a grocery list for the entire week, then hit the grocery store on a Saturday morning. I prefer shopping first thing in the morning because there are fewer people in the store and I like to get the shopping out of the way so I can use the rest of my day to rest.
Excellent communication is the foundation of any relationship. Make sure that everyone knows what’s going on at any given time. We use Google calendar to keep everyone informed at home. Whether it’s dentist’s appointments or teacher parent’s meetings, everything goes on the calendar. If you’re more of a traditional gal, consider putting up a physical calendar at a central spot in your home.
Do whatever you love to get your blood pumping. Grab that yoga mat, hit the road or take a walk. Exercise does wonders for both your physical and mental health.
Go to bed early
I’m confident that I’m not the only mom that gets tempted to stay up once the kids are asleep so that I can catch up on an episode of the Real Housewives. Try getting at least 7-8 hours of uninterrupted sleep every night. Of course, life happens, and it’s sometimes not possible. When I manage to get enough sleep, I find that I’m more productive, calm and my creative juices overflow.
A few minutes of intentional quiet time has been proven to boost resilience and emotional wellbeing.
Make self-care a priority
Give yourself permission to put yourself first. And remember, when we’re in a better space, then we’re automatically better moms, friends and partners.
It’s the small choices that we make daily that have the potential to leave us feeling stressed or burnt out. How do you avoid mama burnout? Let me know in the comments below.
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